Typically, men come in for help when their spouse has discovered their sex addiction secret. They are presented with an ultimatum to get help or face a divorce. This is very motivating. This is the “hitting bottom” experience many men need to finally agree to get professional help. It is in exposing the secret and keeping it exposed that recovery takes place.
I recommend that both husband and wife come to the first meeting. At that time we get everything (needs to be the whole story-no secrets) on the table and establish a sex addiction therapy plan that will restore the man to integrity and hopefully serve to restore the marriage. In the majority of cases, this is accomplished! There are no quick fixes, but there is hope. The men are involved in individual therapy and group therapy. Couples’ counseling sessions take place to process pain- on both sides. The men deal with shame and guilt and the women feel betrayed, violated and often undesirable to their partners. A common issue also requiring attention is the verbal and or emotional abuse of the spouse that emanates most of the time from the offender’s feelings of shame and guilt.
The individual work of sexual addiction counseling uncovers the issues which the offending party has been “medicating.” The group provides tools which, when employed, deter what we call “acting out.” Many times the sex addiction habits are so engrained that it takes considerable time in therapy to extinguish the unhealthy behaviors and engrain the healthier ones. I have found, in over 35 years in the field, that those who remain in treatment for the long haul do very well. Clients do most of their individual sessions in the first 90 days, with the group continuing to provide ongoing aftercare.
Additional Treatment for Sex Addiction
It may be necessary to do an Intensive Therapy Program in conjunction with the group and couples’ work (see Intensive Therapy Programs ). The Intensive Therapy Program squeezes the counseling into a short period of time. This allows individuals and couples to go deeper and change more quickly. This is critical when clients’ sexual addiction behaviors are out of control and or the pain of the situation needs immediate attention.
Overcome Sex Addiction with Therapy from Dr. Crow
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