Since 1985 I have run a Christian counseling program for men struggling with sexual addiction, affairs and infidelity. I run two weekly meetings of Group Therapy for men (see Men’s Issues and Men’s Groups ).
What causes men to seek help for sexual addiction?
Typically, men come in for help when their spouse has discovered their sexual addiction secret. They are presented with an ultimatum to get help or face a divorce. This is very motivating. This is the “hitting bottom” experience many men need to finally agree to get professional help. It is in exposing the secret and keeping it exposed that recovery takes place.
Is couples counseling an essential part of sexual addiction therapy?
I recommend that both husband and wife come to the first meeting. At that time we get everything (needs to be the whole story-no secrets) on the table and establish a sexual addiction treatment plan that will restore the man to integrity and hopefully serve to restore the marriage. In the majority of cases, this is accomplished! There are no quick fixes, but there is hope. The men are involved in individual sexual addiction therapy and group therapy. Couples’ counseling sessions take place to process pain- on both sides. The men deal with shame and guilt and the women feel betrayed, violated and often undesirable to their partners. A common issue also requiring attention is the verbal and or emotional abuse of the spouse that emanates most of the time from the offender’s feelings of shame and guilt.
What happens during individual and group counseling for sexual addiction?
The individual work of Christian sexual addiction counseling uncovers the issues which the offending party has been “medicating.” The group provides tools which, when employed, deter what we call “acting out.” Many times the sexual addiction habits are so ingrained that it takes considerable time in therapy to extinguish the unhealthy behaviors and ingrain the healthier ones. I have found, in over 35 years in the field, that those who remain in treatment for the long haul do very well. Clients do most of their individual sessions in the first 90 days, with the group continuing to provide ongoing aftercare.
Are there additional treatments for sex addiction?
It may be necessary to do an Intensive Therapy Program in conjunction with the group and couples’ work (see Intensive Therapy Programs ). The Intensive Therapy Program squeezes the counseling into a short period of time. This allows individuals and couples to go deeper and change more quickly. This form of sexual addiction counseling is critical when clients’ sexual addiction behaviors are out of control and or the pain of the situation needs immediate attention.
What is your treatment philosophy for sex addiction?
My treatment philosophy for sex addiction centers on healing trauma as a foundational step toward recovery. I believe that understanding and addressing underlying emotional wounds is crucial for lasting change. By creating a safe, supportive environment, I encourage individuals to explore the root causes of their behaviors, fostering self-awareness and compassion. Integrating evidence-based therapies, mindfulness practices, and group therapy, I aim to help clients rebuild their sense of self-worth, establish sobriety, and restore their relationships. Ultimately, my goal is to guide individuals on a journey of self-discovery and healing, empowering them to reclaim their lives, develop healthier coping strategies and become the safest best version of themselves for themselves and their relationships.
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